Salam Alykum!

I would like to ask what can I do according to Quran and Sunnah?

I live in Europe and would like to spend rest of my life according to the Quran and Sunnah of our Prophet Peace be Upon Him. My wife is not religious. She does not pray namaz, does not wear the scarf and makes sure she wear nice clothes when she goes out and her hair style is good.
I have tried to teach her but no luck. Sometime I just think end the marriage and Allah will help me to find a better wife. But then i start thinking again as this is my 2nd marriage and have 3 kids as well. I am 30 year old.
Should I make this very clear to her that if she does not try to change herself then i will leave her? and do so if she does not try?
I am really confused what should i do?

Tahir

ANSWER:

WaAlaikum Assalam and thank you for contacting JI dear Mr. Tahir!

Just take it easy, and try to live a decent and loving life with your wife and children. Make a good model of yourself, and give more and proper attention to your children. Never think of divorce as long as you are sure that your wife is chaste and obeys you in conjugal matters. Remember, faith can never be thrust and forced. It is to be preached through affection, persuasion, logical argument and role model. Show in your own behavior and personality the virtues of being good Muslim. Your wife will most probably follow you on her own.

Briefly, look for the flaws and weaknesses in your own approach. Remove them one by one. Meanwhile be absolutely patient and beseeching Allah to help mould your wife.

Again, don’t think of divorce on the grounds you have noted. It will only land you, your children and your wife in great trouble. Instead take up the challenge in the manner I have suggested above. That will sure bring God’s blessing someday, soon it should be hoped.

With best wish for you and your family.

M. Haq

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